Thanks for the detailed insight. Your situation is tricky but manageable. The goal here is not flattery or fake praise—but subtle influence: making your director feel respected, powerful, and intelligent while positioning yourself as competent, dependable, and irreplaceable.
Below is a strategy combining practical psychology, behavioral manipulation (ethical), and communication hacks:
🔑 CORE PRINCIPLES TO WIN OVER YOUR ARROGANT, WORKAHOLIC BOSS
1. Ego Management > Logic
Forget arguing or proving a point logically. With ego-heavy people:
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Use indirect correction:
“Aap ne jo kaha woh bhi ek practical line hai sir, maine ek aur angle socha tha, agar aap dekhein toh shayad ye bhi kaam karega…” -
Make it his idea eventually, even if it was yours.
2. Play the “English Weapon” Smartly
Since he admires fluent English:
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Occasionally use 1-2 powerful English words in your Hindi conversation:
“Sir, iska execution smooth ho raha hai. Just wanted to update you.” -
If you ever write something (notes, summary), make the heading in English, rest in Hindi—he’ll feel you're "international yet grounded".
🧠 PSYCHOLOGICAL & BEHAVIORAL MANIPULATION TECHNIQUES (Ethical & Effective)
🪞1. Mirroring & Soft Mimicry
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Match his tone, posture, and speaking pace subtly.
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If he speaks fast and sharply, you should too.
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If he crosses arms while standing, do that too after 10-15 seconds.
This triggers “like me” bias—people subconsciously trust those who appear like them.
🎣 2. Ben Franklin Effect (Use it on Him)
Ask him for a small favor or a suggestion—even if you know the answer.
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“Sir, ek baat aapse seekhni thi – jab planning tight hoti hai, aap usually kya prioritize karte hain?”
This makes him feel needed, respected, and creates false ownership in you. He’ll unconsciously start liking you more.
🎯 3. Third-Party Praise Loop
Never praise him directly (it seems fake). Instead:
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Praise him to someone else when he’s nearby.
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“Sir bahut focus wale insaan hain, woh hi reason hai ki kaam disciplined hai.”
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Or say this during lunch/tea when his close circle is around. It WILL reach him.
This taps into indirect ego stroking, which arrogant people respect more.
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💬 DAILY CONVERSATION STYLE WITH HIM
Situation | What to Say |
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When he’s angry | “Sir, aapka concern bilkul valid hai. Hum log pakka ismein improvement laayenge.” |
When you disagree | “Sir aapki baat mein dum hai, bas ek chhota sa alternate angle dikh raha tha…” |
When giving an idea | “Sir, aap hi ke approach ko base banaake ek naya suggestion socha tha…” |
When he succeeds | “Sir aapka kaam dekh ke lagta hai ki perfection ka matlab kya hota hai.” |
⏰ TIME-BASED MANIPULATION (Workaholic Hack)
Workaholic bosses value those who:
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Work late.
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Message early.
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Show presence even during fatigue.
You don’t have to burn out. But:
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Send a work-related WhatsApp msg at 9:45 PM occasionally: “Sir just wrapped this up, review pending. Will finish tomorrow morning.”
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Or share updates at 7:45 AM: “Sir kal ka report attach kar raha hoon. Aapka guidance rahega toh aur better kar sakte hain.”
This builds the illusion of your 24/7 involvement—without being a chamcha.
📜 BUILD YOUR BRAND WITHOUT SHOWING OFF
Create a weekly summary (1 pager) in a clean format:
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50% in Hindi, 50% with keywords in English.
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Highlight problems faced and how you solved them.
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Add a short “Recommendation/Next Action” line—it makes you look leadership-ready.
Send it without being asked, every Sunday evening or Monday morning.
🪛 EXTRA TACTICS TO BE “HIS FAVOURITE”
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Get Close to His Gatekeepers: Befriend his close subordinates or PAs. Use light humour, empathy. They can influence his perception of you more than you think.
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Support His Ideas Publicly: When he gives a direction in a meeting, be the first to say:
“Haan sir, ye approach logical lagta hai. Isse time bhi bachega.”
(Even if you tweak it later). -
Make Him Feel Like a Mentor
Say once in a while:
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“Sir, aap jaise logon ke under kaam milna blessing hai.”
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“Aapke kaam ka discipline dekh ke seekhne ko milta hai.”
This hits his ego, but makes you appear humble, focused, and “worthy of grooming”.
Would you like me to:
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Draft a weekly reporting template (with English+Hindi mix)?
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Help you write a text/message for sharing an idea without offending him?
Just say the word, and I’ll craft it for you.
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